Helpful Article about Getting out the Door in the Mornings

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Starting Each Day: Tips to
Get out the Door On Time

By Anne Prowant

Mornings can be tough. Everyone needs to get up, get
dressed, have breakfast, and be ready to go, often in a
short amount of time. We parents can end up rushed,
frazzled, and short on patience. No one wants to begin
the day that way! Here are a few simple, sanity-saving
tips to help mornings with young children feel more
manageable.

1. Establish a nighttime routine.

A good morning starts the night before. Children
thrive on consistency, so implement a predictable
bedtime routine at the same time every night.
Maria Montessori observed that children find
security in a predictable schedule. Sticking to the
same ritual (perhaps a bath, then story, then song,
then lights out) each evening will comfort your
child and make it easier to start winding down. Turn off any screens 60
minutes before bed, as these can interfere with restful sleep.

2. Prepare the night before.

Minimizing the number of things you have to do in the morning is a
simple way to streamline your routine. Encourage your children to
select and lay out appropriate clothing for the next day, engage them in
preparing lunches and/or starting the next day’s breakfast, and remind
them to place items that need to go to school by the front door. Children
as young as 1 can begin to be independent in dressing themselves,
and older children can pack their own lunches. Resist the urge to step
in—allow children to struggle a little, helping only when you see they
may be becoming frustrated. Affording responsibilities like these offers
children opportunities for input and thus a sense of ownership.

3. Stay organized.

One way to avoid a frantic last-minute search for backpacks and shoes
is to keep all of these items in the same place. Establish a cubby area
near the doorway that has a place for shoes, backpacks, coats, and mittens.
Make sure it is attractive and child-size to promote independence
and a desire to keep it organized. (Montessori was the first educator to
stress the importance of child-size furniture in the classroom.) Set and
uphold the expectation that this is where your children should neatly
store their things, and take time with your children to restore order if
the cubbies get a little messy during the week.

4. Use the clock.

In this busy world, children can feel rushed around without any understanding
of why, and this can lead to tantrums and power struggles.
Explain to your child that everyone needs to be out of the house at a
certain time. Show them that time on the clock (or use a sand timer for
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younger children). In the morning, point to the clock
and say, “Oh, look! We need to leave in 10 minutes.
What should we be doing now?” Wait for an answer,
but if the child cannot give one, be direct: “Now is
the time to put on our coats and shoes.”
It’s possible to make the morning routine a team effort,
rather than a competition with parents doing all the
heavy lifting. The keys are to be prepared, give yourself
plenty of time, and allow your children to be independent.
Yes, it may be faster in the moment to dress them
yourself and rush them out the door. But in the long run,
offering your children some ownership over their morning
will enable a more peaceful routine for everyone.
Listen to your children’s input and involve them in the
process—by doing so, you show respect and positively
impact self-esteem. As Montessori (2014) asserted,

“Children are human beings to whom respect is due,
superior to us by reason of their innocence and of the
greater possibilities of their future.”
ANNE PROWANT is a Children’s House directress and freelance
writer living in Charlotte, NC. She is AMS-credentialed (Early
Childhood). Contact her at anne.prowant@gmail.com.

Summer and Swimming saftey

Did you know? 

According to the red cross 97% percent of people are unable to recognize a swimmer in danger.  That is because drowning doesn’t always look like drowning.  It isn’t a loud flailing scene.  It is often a quiet subtle experience that doesn’t beckon those around them for help.

Here are some helpful tactics from the National Traffic Safety Institute to help keep you and your loved ones safe this swimming season.

At home

  • Never leave a child alone in or near water, including bathtubs, sinks and toilets.
  • Never rely on any type of support ring to keep your child safe in the bathtub.
  • Empty all buckets and any other containers that hold water or any other fluid immediately after use.
  • Use toilet locks.

In pools

  • Never leave a child alone in or near a swimming pool even just to answer the telephone.
  • Enclose a pool or spa with four-sided fence which is a minimum of five feet in height, that has self-closing and self-latching gates. It is recommended that the side of a house not be used as any of the sides of the fenced area.
  • Make sure all wading pools are emptied and turned over immediately after use.
  • Learn first aid and CPR, especially infant CPR.
  • Use door and pool alarms and automatic pool covers for extra protection.
  • Teach every child how to swim. Get professional training, but never rely solely on the swimming lessons to protect a child from drowning.
  • Teach the importance of never running, pushing or jumping on other around water.

In open water

  • Never leave children alone and make sure older children always swim with a friend about the same age or with an adult.
  • Always make sure that children swim in approved designated areas in oceans, lakes and rivers. Always check the depth of the water before swimming or diving. If swimming in the ocean, check the current and under-tow.
  • Be sure every child wears a proper fitting life jacket when on a boat or near water. Air-filled swimming aids, such as “water wings,” are not safe substitutes for life jackets. Never rely on a life jacket alone to protect your child.

Get and keep the proper gear.

In the home use toilet locks and non-slip appliqués or bath mats in tubs.

Around pools, make sure they are enclosed and have rescue equipment, such as a shepherd’s crook, life ring, solid pole, or rope readily available.

In an emergency, you do not want to have to hunt for the safety equipment. Keep emergency telephone numbers poolside. Use door and pool alarms.

A little planning can help ensure that your family and friends will have a safe and enjoyable summer.

 

Four Goals of Misbehavior

According to Adlerian theory and research done by Alred Adler there are four goals of misbeaivor.

It is important to understand the child’s goal in order to help redirect and set approriate limits and allow for  natural consequence.

The following is an excerpt from From “The ABC’s of Guiding the Child,” by Rudolf Dreikurs and Margaret Goldman.) http://www.adlerian.us/guid.htm

“His (the child) basic aim is to have significance and his place in the group. A well-adjusted child has found his way toward social acceptance by cooperating with the requirements of the group and by making his own useful contribution to it. The misbehaving child is still trying, in a mistaken way, to feel important in his own world. For examples a young child who has never been allowed to dress himself (because “the parent is in a hurry”), who has not been allowed to help in the house (“you’re not big enough to set the table”), may lack the feeling that he is a useful, contributing member of the family, and might feel important only when arousing a parent’s anger and annoyance with misbehavior.

The four goals of misbehavior. The child is usually unaware of his goals. His behavior, though illogical to others, is consistent with his own interpretation of his place in the family group.

  • Attention-getting: he wants attention and service. We respond by feeling annoyed and that we need to remind and coax him.
  • Power: he wants to be the boss. We respond by feeling provoked and get into a power contest with him–“you can’t get away with this!”
  • Revenge: he wants to hurt us. We respond by feeling deeply hurt– I’ll get even!”
  • Display of inadequacy: he wants to be left alone, with no demands made upon him. We respond by feeling despair–I don’t know what to do!”
  • If your first impulse is to react in one of these four ways, you can be fairly sure you have discovered the goal of the child’s misbehavior.

A child who wants to be powerful generally has a parent who also seeks power. One person cannot fight alone; when a parent learns to do nothing (by withdrawing, for example) during a power contest, she dissipates the child’s power, and can begin to establish a healthier relationship with him. The use of power teaches children only that strong people get what they want.

No habit is maintained if it loses its purpose, its benefits. Children tend to develop “bad” habits when they derive the benefit of negative attention.

Minimize mistakes. Making mistakes is human. We must have the courage to be imperfect. The child is also imperfect. Don’t make too much fuss and don’t worry about his mistakes. Build on the positive, not on the negative.

A family council gives every member of the family a chance to express himself freely in all matters of both difficulty and pleasure pertaining to the family. The emphasis should be on “What we can do about the situation.” Meet regularly at the same time each week. Rotate chairmen. Keep minutes. Have an equal vote for each member. Require a consensus, not a majority vote on each decision.

Have fun together and thereby help to develop a relationship based on enjoyment, mutual respect, love and affection, mutual confidence and trust, and a feeling of belonging. Instead of talking to nag, scold, preach, and correct, utilize talking to maintain a friendly relationship. Speak to your child with the same respect and consideration that you would express to a good friend.”

Spring Portrait Session April 17th!

Hello Healthy Beginnings Families,

We are having our spring photo day April 17th.   Please do not forget!  

Portrait session beginning at 8:00 am.  Please drop off your child at eight in portrait day attire.  If you have any special request, please write them down for teacher and photographer.

View and purchase session held from 3:00 pm to 6:00 pm.  Please pick out your pictures before picking up your children.

Happy Spring!

 

Local Car Seat Event

Is Your Car Seat Installed Correctly??
73% of Child Safety Seats are used INCORRECTLY; almost 3 out of 4!
Good News!!!!
Car Seat Inspection/Education Event
Your Car Seat will be Inspected by a Certified Child Passenger Safety Technician
Saturday April 1, 2017
9:00am to 1:00pm (By Appointment Only)
Parking Lot at Children’s Advocacy Center of Collin County
2205 Los Rios Blvd, Plano Texas 75074
To Schedule an Appointment Contact
Tiffany Tepper at ttepper@family-compass.org or Call 214-370-9810
 
Do Not Pass Up This Opportunity!
Protect Your Child’s Safety while Providing Yourself Peace of Mind.
Important:
Child and Current Car Seat MUST be present for Inspection!!!
Hosted by Family Compass
Child Abuse Prevention & Awareness Month

A little bit about Dr. Maria Montessori

Dr. Maria Montessori is the founder of the Montessori theory the we here at Healthy Beginnings Montessori House hold so dear.  If you do not know about this remarkable women here is a link that can give you a glimpse into her life and accomplishments.  http://www.montessoriservices.com/ideas-insights/maria-montessori-what-you-may-not-know